#RME: How much sex are you getting?

How much sex are you getting?

Do  you take a roll in the hay every night, once or twice a week, monthly or at no particular time? For the good of your own relationship, how much sex should you be having? Many couples do find infrequent sex to be an issue. While some are fine with the occasional 5-minutes romp under the sheets, others wish they were getting a whole lot more.

There are women who worry that their men demand too much sex and secretly wish they'd slow down. But a lot more men complain that it is their women that are not giving it up as often as they (men) desire.

More than next door

On the whole, the average couple is happy if it thinks it's getting more sex than the couple next door regardless of how much it's actually getting.

Having more sex than your neighbours can actually make you happy, and research shows that couples who have sex at least two to three times a month are more likely to report a higher level of happiness than those who who've had no sex during the previous 12 months.

The more sex people have, the happier they tend to be, even when factors like income, marital status, health and age are taken into account.

What is more surprising is that even people who have reasonable amounts of sex report lower levels of happiness if they think there is a chance they could be having less sex than their peers.
Conversely, people who think they are getting more sex than their peers report higher levels of happiness, even if — in the great scheme of things— they aren't having that much sex.

How much is normal?

This sounds like a simple question, but there are no right answers. What happens when a couple has what is called mismatched libidos? If she likes to have sex four times a week and he only once or twice, of course they want to find out who is the abnormal one.

Essentially the amount of sex you have will depend on you and your relationship, and that the ideal frequency is tricky to pin down.People tend to have more sex in the early stages of a relationship and less lately on.But the average does suggest that a natural sexual frequency is something like once or twice a week in a committed, long term relationship.

Many couples will be happy with less, and others will be at it every night, but if you're up with the average at least you can stop stressing about what's happening next door and start enjoying what's happening in your own bedroom.

At least once a week

Every relationship is different, and the amount of sex you need is the amount that makes both partners happy. While there may be no one right answer to the question of how often couples should have sex, they should to try to do it at least once a week.

Pencilling in sex at least once a week means sex becomes a habit, something you fit in however busy or stressed you are. Once a week means you'll get all the health and wellbeing benefits, too. So the more you have the better.

Sexless marriages
Generally speaking, a sexless marriage is one in which a committed couple has sex less than 10 times per year. About 1 in five couples fall into this category.

This may or may not be an issue, depending on the couple. Some couples, especially older pairs who've been together a long time, are perfectly fine with once or twice a year or even not at all, thank you very much.

Not having sex doesn't mean these couples aren't deeply in love, monogamously committed and happy together. It just means that sex isn't as high a priority for them as it is for some of their friends, neighbours or people they see on TV and in the movies.

Spice up your flagging sex life If you and your partner have gone several weeks or even months without sex and the lack of activity is troubling you, usually a little bit of effort is enough to revive your flagging sex life, especially if the emotional connection between you and your partner remains strong.

Try one or more of the following tips

Schedule it:  Sounds horribly unromantic, but really it's quite the opposite. Plan a relaxing shower and mutual massage as part of foreplay. After all, who doesn't look forward to a massage? Couples who search together for the right scent of massage oil are off to a great start.

Mix it up: Perhaps you've always had that special secret fantasy, but you've never mentioned it or acted on it. Now is the time to talk about it with your partner. Who knows, maybe he or she is willing to try it. And be sure to ask about his or her secret fantasy. It might be a turn-on for you, too. Just make sure that if you both say yes, you really mean to say yes. No regrets, please.

Go away. If you've always done it in the bedroom, try another room, the kitchen, or a hotel, or a cabin in the woods. It's amazing what a little change of venue can do for a stale sex life.
Be romantic

Give your partner a gift "just because." Write a list of things you love about your partner and give it to him or her. Plan a surprise date that involves an activity you know your partner enjoys (even if it's not your favorite thing to do).

#RME: Why I prefer sex before marriage — Oluwaseyi Edun

Sensuously beautiful Seyi Edun is a budding actress who has not only found her place in the world of acting but also taking giant strides as a movie producer. As new as she is on the scene, Seyi is already being regarded as one of the fast rising stars to watch out for in the Yoruba sector of Nollywood.

In this chat with Potpourri, Seyi talks about her life as an actress, a producer and the concept behind her first produced movie 'Eja Nla'.  She also talks about her fondness for the pop star, D'Banj, her love life and several sundry issues:

Have you  always wanted     to be an actress?
I didn't set out to be an actress. I joined the industry in 2009 through my younger sister     who happens to be a scriptwriter.  I joined the House of Wisdom caucus .  I graduated in 2011 and also produced my first movie in  2011

Why are you called Eja Nla?
I got the name Eja Nla from D  Banj. I love D  banj so much.  I love his music and personality so I just decided to come up with something unique  and  produced a movie around that name. The name stuck ever since.

What is your most challenging movie role?
My most challenging movie role is in Ogo Olorun. It's a movie where I had to speak Yoruba all through. Not just conventional Yoruba, but Yoruba rooted in proverbs and folklore. It was really challenging because   I wasn't permitted to fuse English with  myYoruba. I didn't find it easy, especially with the Yoruba proverbs.

Can you date any of your colleagues?
Yes and no. Yes, because you never can tell where you will find love, but presently     I will say no , I can't date any of my colleagues.

What would you consider the good side and bad side of being an actress?
The good side of being an actress is that you are a known face and doors open for you as a result of your fame. While the bad side involves having to deal with scandals and nosy journalists. As an actress there is no way you can prevent some bad things being writen about you. It is a sweet and sour experience.

What are the challenges of being a movie producer?
Movie production is not easy at all. We face challenges from monetary to logistics. At times, the timeline of production doesn't just agree with your time-table. A film of couple of weeks may end up running into months and this may stretch the budget and make you incur more expenses. But the biggest challenge is money, getting money to bankroll your production.

What will you consider as your favourite qualities in a man?
I love a responsible man, God-fearing, not extremely handsome and not too ugly. I also  don't want someone who is     extremely rich. I love a man with a good heart, someone who     will love   me for who I am.

Have you ever been heartbroken?
Yes I have, and I don't     want to be heartbroken anymore. Heartbreak is not a good thing. When one is heartbroken it hurts     and weighs you down. You feel like your life   has been thrown into a puddle and the truth is that it's the person that one   loves that breaks one's heart.

Can you quit acting for your relationship?
That is why I said earlier that I love a man who understands me for who I am and my man       cannot tell me to quit acting because of our relationship.

What does sex means to you?
Sex is a good thing, we are all sexual beings.     Our sexuality is linked with   the rest of our lives. It's a sort of bond between two people, a form of expression that goes behond the ordinary intimacy shared. It's a good thing.

What is your take on sex before marriage?
I think it's an individual thing. Once you are     an adult and you think you are ready, go for it. Personally, I think sex before marriage is good. Because it will make you know your partner well before going into marriage. So if there is anything you are not comfortable with, you have an ample time to correct it before actually going into the lifetime contract of marriage. Doing it before marriage also reduces adultery and fornication.  It is also a good way of studying your partner before you get committed to him or her.

What will you consider the sexiest part of your body?
I will choose my leg as the sexiest part of   my body. People often tell me I have got sexy legs, so I will choose my legs.

#RME: American Singers, Ja Rule, Ashanti storm Warri on Oct. 1

American rap star Ja Rule, and R&B singer Ashanti, would thrilled their Nigerian fans as part of an event to mark this year's Independence celebration.

JaRule and Ashanti

The show, tagged: 'Warri Again: The Flagship', is scheduled for Oct. 1 in Warri, according to Nigeriafilms.com.

It will be recalled that a duet entitled 'Always On Time', by both artistes set the music scene on fire years ago; they may rekindle the energy that song oozed years back.

They will be supported by some Nigerian music stars, including Davido, Wizkid, Tiwa Savage, Iyanya, Seyi Shay, Yemi Alade, Dr Sid, Daddy Showkey, Flavour and Oritsefemi.

`Warri Again' is a show aimed at rebranding Warri and making it a destination for entertainment.

#RME: NYSC: Digitalization’ll eliminate mobilization problem — DG

The Director General of National Youth Service Corps, NYSC, Brig-General Johnson Olawumi, has disclosed that the computerization process of mobilization of corps members for the one year national youth service would address all the irregularities associated with analogue method.

Olawumi, who stated this in an interview with newsmen in Abuja, alleged that students' affairs officers of some corps producing institutions were involved in mobilizing students for the national youth service illegally.

He said; "One thing we do not anticipate before and which this online mobilization process has brought out clearly is the fact that we are now going to eliminate all those sharp practices by some corps producing institutions that forward names of those who are not legible.

#RME: Mourinho vs Wenger: as the fever begins

This article is not on the Ebola fever about which much has been written. It is about a different kind of fever; the type that gripped the world (World Cup) about the time Ebola gripped West Africa. This is the season of soccer.

The English Premier League (EPL) starts in earnest today with the close of the transfer window, much to the consternation and bemusement of several wives and girlfriends who have to contend with distracted attention and half-hearted services of their men in the next six months.

Mourinho and Wenger

Many women—and a few men—simply can't understand what the excitement is all about. Why would 22 young men run round a restricted pitch chasing, and hoping to catch, a small, round, leather ball not with their hands, but with their legs. As if that is not crazy enough, an odd man with a whistle cuts a comic figure as he chases the men who chase the ball but makes sure neither the ball nor its pursuer touches him.

An impartial observer—and many women are—cannot understand the ridiculous poses of her husband/boyfriend/brother as he twists and turns on the coach or the legs that kick and jab in response to whatever is happening on the TV. She has also learnt to gauge the moods. A sullen, irritable mood means his team has lost, while an exuberant, elated mood means his team has won. For many, the mood lasts for a couple of hours, then they can talk about it. For some, it goes on until the next game whenever that might be, putting everybody in the house—or office—on edge.

These days, the twenty-two young men who do the chasing are usually multi-millionaires and the game itself has spun into a multi-billion dollar industry that employs millions of people all over the world. Welcome to our sport.

I could talk about the different aspects of soccer; from the kids who are spotted and groomed at an age when they are barely taller than the ball itself; to the academies that sift and sift until only the finest talents pass through; to the young men who are left disillusioned and broken because they never made it; to the mental and technical conditioning that hone the talents into human machines; to the agents and men on the fringes who promote, manipulate and sometimes destroy their wards; to the administrators, the fat cats who lord it over the rest of us; to the fans who give time, money and energy to follow their teams all over the world.

But much has been written about these people while little is known about those who sit in the dug house biting nails and chewing gums. They never get into the pitch—in fact—it is an infringement if they do- but are every inch as involved as the players while the game is on and more involved when the game is over. They are the ones who share the joy of victory with the players, the club and the fans but carry the burden of defeat virtually alone. They symbolise the modern game which is now sometimes lost and won in the dressing room. I am talking about the people we call managers or gaffers. And two people in the EPL today—Jose Mourinho and Arsene Wenger—represent the contrasting styles of modern football management.

The transfer window ended just a fortnight ago, with the typical, frenetic last minute shopping. Wenger was active until the last minute while Mourinho was done with his shopping long before then. Does the person who waits till Xmas eve to do his shopping get the best deal or the rejects? While this is subject to debate, it is an indication of a contrasting personality trait which will reflect on their management styles.

But first the similarities. Both are polyglots—each speaks at least four different languages fluently. Neither played football to any significant level. Both are bad losers. Wenger sulks and can be incommunicado for hours while Mourinho rants and charges at everyone. Both are technically proficient and obsessed with details. Both have been known to study tapes for hours on end looking for strengths and weaknesses of their opponents.

But it is in the area of human management that the differences begin to show. Mourinho is openly demonstrative; when he is not hugging or back slapping his players, he is ticking their ears. He gives carrots via weekend breaks etc but lets them know the stick is not too far away. Wenger is reserved and acts like an aloof father.

He deeply cares about his players and their families but has an invincible line they don't cross. Unlike Mourinho, he hardly enters into spats with his player past or present. But the biggest difference in my opinion is their approach to winning which is reflected in the way they build their teams. Mourinho looks for competent, hard working players who must track back to defend. After all, you can't lose a game if you don't concede goals. So he goes for ready-made players who are proven in their positions. Wenger on the other hand looks for flair and doesn't believe in winning ugly.

He picks players young and nurtures them and is perhaps guilty of holding on too long to some of them. Mourinho is somewhat ruthless; he sucks an orange and can throw it away immediately without compulsion if he is not satisfied with the juice. The difference can therefore be summarised as that between a pragmatist and an idealist.

I believe they both would be better managers if they could learn from each other. The fans want to be entertained; but they also want their teams to win. But it is this contrasting style plus the fact that they don't even like each other that adds to the excitement and heightens the fever around our beautiful game. It also makes it more difficult to predict the eventual winner of the EPL

#RME: What a Pity! Ebola???: Liberian Woman Found Hanging in Lagos (Photos)

There was confusion on Bankole Street, Isheri-Oke, Lagos this morning when residents woke up to the sight of a woman hanging on a tree. The woman, popularly called Kate in the area, was found dead in a black sweater and orange skirt under a pear tree.

Residents who spoke to Punch said the woman was a Liberian who worked in a sachet water factory before she died and that the woman did not live on their street.

While they said that the woman had been sickly for some time, the residents said she did not appear 
to have any problem with anyone in the community. But after the outbreak of the Ebola disease that was brought to Nigeria by a Liberian diplomat, Patrick Sawyer, some of the people in the area opted not to have anything to do with her.

One of the residents who pleaded anonymity said:
"We see her in this neighbourhood every day. She always looked sick but people stopped selling to her after the Ebola outbreak. It could be because she was Liberian and looked sickly. This might have frustrated her."
Another resident who spoke to Punch after his request for anonymity was granted said:
"She attended a church in the area and her church members still saw her yesterday. I used to see her every day in the dress she died in. She was sick and people in this area had avoided her, especially after the Ebola outbreak."
The PUNCH gathered from some landlords, who are members of the Isheri Oke Community Development Association, that the incident had been reported to the Isheri Police Division.
Efforts to reach the Baale (head) of the area, Chief Albert Bankole, for comments proved abortive as he declined to speak to The PUNCH on the issue. The Lagos State Police Public Relations Officer, Ngozi Braide, could not be reached for comments.
Meanwhile, when Punch correspondent left the area around 11am, the woman's body was still hanging on the pear tree.

Culled from P.M.NEWS

#RME: This is Too Funny! Man walks into GTB, jumps over counter, starts stuffing a bag with cash.says he wore an "invisible" ring

This is Too Funny!  Whoever gave this man an invisible ring to wear to go and steal is wicked, lol. Apparently, a man walked into GTB thinking he was all invisible because he wore an invisible ring and he could steal. The man jumped over the counter and started stuffing a bag with cash, before the cashiers held him. Police were later called in and he was asked why he did that, and he said he thought no one could see him because he wore an invisible ring. How thoughtful! So Dumb

#RME: Wow Tiwa savage gets a 24 Carat Microphone as gift.... Awesome!!!

Tiwa Savage is presently filled with happiness over her 24- carat gold microphone delivered to her by luxury designer, Malivelihood. She shared a picture of the gift on Instagram and wrote: "OMG OMG OMG I am in ️ A special DOROMEGAThanks to @malivelihood for my limited edition 24KT Gold sapphire Microphone, I love it so much…ready to Rock Africa unplugged, Sept 14 Brixton O2 Academy…God bless you @malivelihood for exceeding my expectations and being so talented and professional… Guys check him out for your phones, laptops, accessories, etc #GoldenMicForAGoldenVoice #DoroDiva."

#RME: Meet Genevive's gorgeous Daughter... Awww lovely. See more photos...

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